Interesting, I wasn’t aware of Bollas. This reminds me of the invitation of “ how do I live that? “ , once you encounter an insight from the unconscious (was it Rilke who said that? I know jungians use it, especially James Hollis ) . The question is an invitation to go out into the world and use it. I like the directive of “healthy aggression” to activate it.
Thank you for this post Maria. Bollas sits gathering dust in a OneDrive folder of PDFs. Maybe one day I will get there.
He does sound quite Jungian though. Especially in your framing of fated and destined life. I think discovering one’s personal myth helps tremendously, but even still the challenge becomes maintaining a certain individuated living from that recognition. No easy feat!
Thank you for reading! It was the same for me, I had the Shadow of the Object gathering virtual dust for a few years, until I had a dream where a figure was reading Bollas and I knew it was time. I think you'd like his writing a lot! I find him quite poetic and so insightful.
I so relate to the (ugh...) 😂 I have much empathy for the fated ones...I actually increasingly believe in fate but no longer from a state of resignation, more like acceptance, and then to continue to move forward and experiment if you will, as much as our limitations afford us.
Interesting, I wasn’t aware of Bollas. This reminds me of the invitation of “ how do I live that? “ , once you encounter an insight from the unconscious (was it Rilke who said that? I know jungians use it, especially James Hollis ) . The question is an invitation to go out into the world and use it. I like the directive of “healthy aggression” to activate it.
I like it too. And being ruthless with your choices which makes me think of self-honesty and being solid enough to reject what’s not true to you.
Thank you for this post Maria. Bollas sits gathering dust in a OneDrive folder of PDFs. Maybe one day I will get there.
He does sound quite Jungian though. Especially in your framing of fated and destined life. I think discovering one’s personal myth helps tremendously, but even still the challenge becomes maintaining a certain individuated living from that recognition. No easy feat!
Thank you for reading! It was the same for me, I had the Shadow of the Object gathering virtual dust for a few years, until I had a dream where a figure was reading Bollas and I knew it was time. I think you'd like his writing a lot! I find him quite poetic and so insightful.
I so relate to the (ugh...) 😂 I have much empathy for the fated ones...I actually increasingly believe in fate but no longer from a state of resignation, more like acceptance, and then to continue to move forward and experiment if you will, as much as our limitations afford us.
I suppose we're all fated in some aspects of our lives. Until we can move towards destiny?