Negative self-talk is a massive thing and as mentioned we're not always aware that its going on all the time. One of the exercises I encourage people to do (and I can't remember who came up with it orginally) is to set an alarm to go off several times a day and when it does, ask yourself "What was the last thing I said to myself" and then challenge those thoughts.
I found it extremely helpful in managing the Depression I'd been living with since childhood. It's still something I do again if I feel myself slipping backwards.
Oh, and Lilith! I adore Lilith and all she represents.
That sounds like a very helpful exercise. And you're right, most of us are so used to being self-critical and harsh with ourselves that we don't even notice how damaging that is (or that it's not okay). It's often a big lightbulb moment for people to realise "oh I have this awful voice in my head but it's not me".
Negative self-talk is a massive thing and as mentioned we're not always aware that its going on all the time. One of the exercises I encourage people to do (and I can't remember who came up with it orginally) is to set an alarm to go off several times a day and when it does, ask yourself "What was the last thing I said to myself" and then challenge those thoughts.
I found it extremely helpful in managing the Depression I'd been living with since childhood. It's still something I do again if I feel myself slipping backwards.
Oh, and Lilith! I adore Lilith and all she represents.
That sounds like a very helpful exercise. And you're right, most of us are so used to being self-critical and harsh with ourselves that we don't even notice how damaging that is (or that it's not okay). It's often a big lightbulb moment for people to realise "oh I have this awful voice in my head but it's not me".